To, single men

Dear Single Man,
I completely understood, when, I developed feelings for you off the back of a very well established friendship, that my open-ended query (revealing a one sided interest) caused some awkwardness. Thank you for your grace.

Dear Single Man
I sort of understood, when things got awkward following a frank conversation, that you decided the friendship no longer merited your time ...

I understand that, in these two situations (and others) I have exhibited moments of foolishness, misguided judgements.

What I do not understand is:
Why, on an internet dating website, after getting bored of really long and in-depth email conversation and figuring it would be much better to actually meet and decide if we are attracted to one another...
WHY
OH WHY

Is it (apparently) not OK for me to be the one to ask the question 'Shall we meet for coffee?'

I am not asking for a relationship,but a chance to meet and chat.
I am not organising anything...I am not negating your opportunity to sweep me off my feet and take me on an amazing first date (if you might so desire to..), I am asking a question.

This is the 21st century, I shouldn't need to remind you that a woman is your equal in a relationship.

What is the problem???
(Disclaimer: if anyone says 'timing' or 'not the right guy'....they can expect a laptop to be thrown at their head).


This is a far deeper issue than my personal love life (or lack of...)

Rant over.